True story, I am writing this blog at 3.46am. I woke up to pee and the idea to write this blog came to me. As a Writer, if you get an idea to write and you don’t start writing immediately, the dynamics of the story could change or the opportunity to write that particular thought could be missed – a writing idea coming to a writer is a GIFT. So, a lot of times, writers draft the plot in a writing pad or grab their computers and start writing. This time, I decided to grab my computer and make this thought into a post and I know it would help a lot of people. I hope it helps you…..
The thought that came to my mind were the things I did as a child and I still do now……
I. I was a TEACHER as a child
2. I was a GIVER as a child
3. I SPOKE in front of different audience as a child
4. I COACHED and MENTORED people as a child
5. I DRESSED WELL & CREATIVELY as a child
6. I was HARDWORKING as a child
7. I was a WRITER as a child
Okay, what has this got to do with anything? This blog is likely to be long but if you would make time to read it, it would help you find your purpose – most certainly.
Teaching as a Child
I was about 10 or so and I would gather younger children, some of which were tenants and some neighbours together and would teach them simple Maths and English. I would guide them to learn first, afterwards, I gave them practice questions and grade them after. I was called “Small Teacher”.
Now, I teach classes. A lot of which I launch from the things I currently do: I have taught YouTube Leveraging & Mastery, Style Masterclass, Earn as You Share – Blogging Masterclass etc.
Giving as a Child
I was always a giver. My mum has a twin shop side by side, she still does – one houses and sells building materials and the other one sold soft drinks in very large quantity. She sold other merchandise but I will stop here so as not to stray from the focus of the blog. I would get a create of minerals (soft drinks) and buy biscuits and share it with children in my area, even though I wasn’t celebrating anything. Looking back, I realised that the people I gathered then were children who I thought the parents didn’t have much. I did this kind of giving continuously for as long as I can remember. I gave clothes, I gave toiletries and I gave food. We always have excess of those things at home then. Both my Parents were givers. I saw them always giving – money, time, support etc – I learnt from the best – my parents.
Now, I realised whether consciously or unconsciously, I give a lot. In fact, giving is always on my vision board. I give through my unofficial charity to a few young adults I “picked up” from the street and to lone parents / their wards. Those are my focus for now. I also give my time, I realise that no matter how busy I get, I still make time to give to people who need me. Giving brings me fulfilment, if I can say so. I am thankful that I have to give.
Speaking as a Child
I didn’t go to boarding school but most of my siblings did. In my secondary school, I would represent my school in activities (academic related) and on the next day, I would present to the entire school the outcome of the event on the assembly. If I am right, it would be 700 – 800 or more in my primary school then. I don’t know how our teachers came up with this idea but they did and I was always the presenter. I don’t know how I did it but I always enjoyed doing it.
Now, I speak at events, seminars, both off and online. I speak in my YouTube videos almost everyday, I spoke at Google in 2018, and one of the highlight of my year 2020 is that I facilitated at a Global work event in February of 2020. You can book me for your event HERE
Coaching as a child
I actually didn’t realise I was coaching anyone but I assumed a lot of coaching / leadership positions as a child. Although a child myself, I supported other children who struggled with learning, especially in my teenage years. I showed them what to do, how to do them, when to do them and much more. I remember always been the one whose home other teenagers came to wait after school before extra lessons (grinds equivalent) which we attended near school. While they waited, I took responsibility for ensuring home work was done, food was made for them and ensuring that we all got to our extra classes on time.
Now, I help people see their potential, speak life into people, encourage people to be the best they can be in whatever it is they do, I create motivational videos to encourage and help people globally, to find and fulfil and their purpose etc.
Dressing Well as a Child
I had great parents. They gave us everything and the way we looked was important too. My Father would bring lovely pretty dresses from the US and I would wear them creatively, mixing a skirt from a set with another pants from a set and on and on. My mum bought the prettiest Mothercare dresses with either pink bow or blue satin velvety bows on them and on and on. As I grew older, I continued dressing well, sold clothes in the University to my peers and people knew me as the Fashionista. I even won a nomination for the best dressed person in my graduating year at Uni.
Now, I help women mostly look well within their budget. Shop for them, style them and show them how to carry themselves with poise and grace. Book Your Stylist HERE
Hardworking as a Child
I would wake up at 5am. In this order – pray, do mild chores (sweep, clean dishes), have a wash/shower, make breakfast, eat breakfast and head out to open my mother’s shop in the morning to display the merchandise, go back home to dress up for school and was always the first person in school (won most punctual student award 5 years consecutively). After school, I would go back home, make dinner for my family, go to my after school, do homework, do chores, repeat. At the weekends, I cleaned the house, did laundry, prepped meals with my mum and repeat. My mum had other shops in other locations in Lagos and she was either in one of those shops and Dad’s office was at Ebute – Metta, Lagos, just in case you were wondering. .That was my routine from about age 12 to 17 till I went to Uni, leaving home for the first time. At the time, I felt I did too much compared to my peers BUT I am grateful for that routine…….
Now, I am able to joggle mum life, career, business and family like a boss. My foundation was right, I wouldn’t change it for anything. Thanks to my parents. By the way, I currently wake up as early as 4.30am, starting my day with prayer – it is a foundation that never breaks. Please do what works for you 🙂
Writing as a Child
I dabbled much into writing when I was younger. I was a member of the press in secondary school, wrote articles here and there and was always the secretary because I took notes / wrote the minutes well. When I went to Uni, I was also a member of the press, wrote articles for the Queens hall press club weekly and participated in all things writing. I eventually became the press secretary in my 3rd and fourth year of uni.
Now, I write blogs, books and daily posts on different platforms. I write on motivation and encouragement, career, fashion, beauty, lifestyle and a bit of activism.
So, I took you dear reader on a long list of things I did as a child to establish facts. Sincerely, I have managed to monetise all the things I listed above. I mean good money, doing the things I enjoy. They were things I liked, enjoyed, maybe not the chores BUT those chores / that routine of hard work was valuable in building discipline, courage, determination and confidence to do everything I do today.
You can see the title of the post says, “how to discover your purpose without paying anyone”. Having written a book on finding purpose myself and read tonnes of them, I can tell you simply that one of the BEST ways to discover your WHY on Earth is to go back to when you were a child. WHAT WERE THE THINGS YOU LIKED WHEN YOU WERE YOUNG(ER) – when you were a child? This may be a foundation to discovering your purpose.
No day passes by without me seeing or hearing of people who are struggling to figure out what they should be doing with their lives. I feel you and I have been there too. How I figured it out was going back to the things I genuinely like and ones I enjoy doing and I have used that to figure out my career path and the choice of things I do everyday………as listed above.
So, if you are not sure of where to start, start with what you did and enjoyed as a child. The child’s mind is free, open to growth, open the learning and can learn anything and open to change. If you would embrace the child in you, you are most likely to figure out your WHY – what you should be doing with your life now.
Another way to figure out what you should be doing now is to pay attention to the things you do so effortlessly. You would do them even if you do not get paid for them. You would do them 7 days a week and you would do them because you enjoy doing them. This could be in any areas of life – coaching, teaching, education, science, arts, music, ministry, charity, entertainment, and it could be in any areas of life. The diversity in our gifts / talents is what God was intentional about. He made us different so our world would have diverse people who can do different things. Imagine, if all of us are Doctors, the world would be boring. If your calling is to be a Doctor, be the BEST Doctor you can be and offer your best to be people you serve and if your calling is to be a Dress Maker, be the BEST dress maker in the world and offer your best service to the people you serve, that is HOW TO FULFIL YOUR CALLING / Purpose. When you do what you love and enjoy, the reward eventually come (this could be money, accolades, awards, recognition etc).
This post is quiet a long one but I hope that if has helped you to open you eyes to see that your “child-life” may just be a journey you need to go back to. It may set you free and it may be the only indicator you need to find and fulfil your purpose. Life is truly beautiful when we wake up to do the things we enjoy! So, find yours and live in it.
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I want to thank you very much for stopping by today and for reading my very long post. I know that this post would you open your mind to the possibility of who you can be in your career choices, business or charity. Thanks very much for reading. Please do not hesitate to email me if you have any questions or want to “pick my brain”. You can contact me or pick my brain.
Now, before I leave, what is your purpose? Have you discovered yours and are you fulfilling it?
Lots of Love,